Tuesday, October 09, 2007


December 12th
8:30 a.m.
Adoption Hearing

I requested an afternoon (I work in the mornings), but hey! What can you do? Now I have to figure out if I need to get a substitute teacher....

Tonight I'm battling such anger at the fact that this little guy is STILL not asking to go to the bathroom. I guess maybe I'm not as patient as I'm "supposed" to be. But for crying out loud! He's five and a half! And I don't have the strength not to yell and get upset when he pees his pants and then shows absolutely no recognition that he's even wet.

It would be really great if we were past this. It would be really great if I could keep my cool when he does this. I know that all the toilet training philosophies say to take this all in stride. But they say that as if it's the easiest thing in the world. Yeah, right! It's the most difficult thing I've EVER done. And quite frankly it has made me believe that I do not want to EVER EVER EVER have another child in my house that has to go through potty training (this would include a baby, which I always thought I wanted).

Hopefully, tomorrow is better.

Monday, October 01, 2007


In August, we finally got the news back from the court that the parents' rights were terminated. They then had thirty days to appeal, but they did not. So now we move along with the adoption. Yay! It looks like they're going to set the court date for December before Christmas.

So now we have one last visit with each parent - but the caseworker is not having any luck contacting either of them. So, who knows?

Ran into the maternal grandmother in Wal-Mart yesterday. That was...interesting. I think she scared the be-junkers out of the little guy. She asked him for hugs and kisses, and he clearly didn't remember her. He kept saying goodbye and then asked me to hold him. I tried my best to graciously walk away. It was not easy.

I was about to say, okay we're done. We've fostered enough. I'm fine with our family the way it is. But I had applied to be a "mentor" and I got accepted. I take it this is God's way of letting me know He's not quite finished with our work in this area quite yet. Bring it on, then. I do hope we can just do some respites here and there. I'm not really ready to take another full-time kid.

Betty has been having some difficulty with this adoption. She feels like an outsider. So we're working through that. We have a pretty awesome lady that is helping us sort through some of these issues. And Betty just got a boyfriend, so things are looking up for her. Her attitude is typically better when she has a guy involved.

Kids! Got to love 'em!